Sunday, May 31, 2009
I knit. Everywhere I go, I knit. I thought this was normal. Then I went to dinner with a knitting friend and pulled out my knitting. She gave me a strange look, and I said: What? You're not going to knit? She thought it was quite odd that I was going to knit at a restaurant. I thought it was odd that she wasn't. But that is just how I am. I knit at concerts, baseball games, weddings, meetings, anywhere I go: I knit. People sometimes say they don't think they could have the patience to knit. I don't think I could have the patience to not knit. How else do you get through long lines, waiting at the doctor's office, watching a movie, or waiting for your food to come at a restaurant?
I took part in a pretty special event yesterday, Meet in the Middle for Equality. The main message I took away was that it is important for us to share our stories. The only way we are going to change anyone's mind is if we make it real for them. So I decided to share my story.
My Mother is a lesbian. She came out when I was in high school. At that time I had many friends that were homosexual, and for them my Mother announcing her sexuality was a reprieve. They finally had someone they could talk to and share their feelings with. For this I am grateful, because I saw how difficult it was for my friends to come to terms with their sexuality. Choices shouldn't be a or b. There are many shades of gray out there. And we need to be accepting of that. My Mom is my Mom, and the fact that she is a lesbian doesn't change that one bit. She didn't change the way she parented me and my sister when she came out. She remained my same old Mom. She has been with her partner now for 7 years and I think it is a shame that they can't officiate their relationship. Partner is such an ambiguous term. I had a business partner, and when I referred to her as my partner people were not always sure what I meant. This is so unfortunate.
I feel that when two people want to make a life long commitment to each other, they should have the right to do so. There needs to be one universal term for what that relationship means. When two heterosexuals join in union we have a term for that, marriage. Everyone understands what marriage means. Lets stand up and give everyone that right.
While at MITM4E I was knitting on my sock. Ty-Dy sock yarn in 631 blueberry field. In my Plain Jane sock pattern. Sorry it's a bit blurry, took if with my phone.